Receive Until It Hurts

‘Tis the season of giving. And, surely, it is blessed to give. I just want to say a few words on the importance of receiving.

I was at a fundraiser for an organization called Mission Of Mercy. They provide free health care for those who have none. The care is provided whether one’s condition is acute or chronic. Many people use Mission Of Mercy doctors and nurses as their primary care providers. Because the organization receives no Federal or State money, they rely on donations at events such as the breakfast I was attending.

One of the speakers was a woman born in Chile who has lived in the United States almost her whole life. She came from a privileged background. Her father was a doctor. She had received a first class education and had always been able to afford pretty much whatever she wanted.

Then life intruded. Due to a series of unfortunate circumstances, she was left nearly destitute and without health care. She became ill with no recourse but to go to an emergency room that couldn’t provide the ongoing treatment she needed. A friend told her about Mission of Mercy.

The woman, who rarely in her life had to ask for very much, was reluctant to ask for help. By her own admission, her pride kept her from doing the very thing that would provide the healthcare she desperately needed. Finally, running out of money and feeling worse and worse, she went to a Mission Of Mercy clinic where she was cared for and made to feel welcome. When she recovered, she started volunteering for the organization and has been doing so ever since.

As I was listening, I thought of how difficult it can sometimes be to ask for help. Receiving help is taken as a sign of weakness whereas giving help is perceived as a sign of strength because the giver has the financial or emotional resources to do so.

People who give generally feel good about helping others. However, it is impossible to give unless someone is willing to receive the help. I can’t make a contribution of money, time or support to someone unless that person is willing to accept the contribution.

So by all means, this holiday season give what you can. But also be open and willing to receive a gift whether that gift is something that has been bought for you or something that has been provided. Allow people to help you. Be grateful for any gesture of friendship. Graciously accept advice even if you'd rather not hear it. Assume that the advice giver genuinely wants to help.

Be thankful for the incredible gift you give when you are willing to receive.